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Interest in the issues of sex at the age of 6-8 years is a normal formation of sexuality. The child understands that people are divided into men and women, tries to understand how he/she was born and how adult relationships are created. It became important for him/her to know the difference between boys and girls, and he/she tries to find answers to own questions. If adults were not able to create an atmosphere where the baby can learn from parents what he is interested in, if the family has taboo to discuss questions about sex, the child has to seek information where it is available.
When the child became a teenager, the interest to the "forbidden video" is a stage of knowledge of own sexuality.
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You should talk about sexuality when the child asks. It is important to be attentive to nonverbal messages as children often do not formulate clearly their questions. Trust parental instincts, but always specify whether the child is ready to talk. If the child refuses to talk about this subject, do not hurry him/her.
Do not task the conversation with scientific details or unnecessary details, communicate with the child in such language that is understandable for him/her. The main purpose is to overcome own embarrassment and try to speak calmly, in order not to provoke excessive emotions concernment.
If you notice that your child has watched "adult movie", try to assess properly your emotional state and determine whether you can hold a conversation delicately and appropriately.
If you can hold an open conversation with your child, discuss the issue calmly and consciously. Try to understand the situation of watching such video, why the child was interested in it, whether it was an individual incident or it is regularly. Remember that there is nothing terrible and the child demonstrates natural cognitive interest.
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Parents should pay attention if episodes of watching "forbidden video" by children at the age of 6-8 years are regular, if the child shows strong interest to this topic.
Worrying symptoms for teenagers can be obsessive interest, the absence of any interests and hobbies, deteriorating of school grades. You should worry if the teenager is not seeking romantic relationships with peers or there are unnatural or bad episodes in the video that he watches.
If parents notice such facts, it means mostly that the teenager has serious problems, with which he tries to manage.
It often happens that the teenager is not ready to share own troubles with adults, exaggerating his guilt or assuming that what happened to him is something shameful.
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This should be considered if you manage to talk with the teenager about the "adult video" in a peaceful situation, perhaps, a child will share with parents own concerns. Planning a consultation with a specialist, it is not necessary to emphasize that the child has problems. Simply present the psychologist or sex-specialist as more qualified professional who has the best qualification.